(Disclaimer: Names and details have been modified for confidentiality.)
A husband or wife calls up the psychologist ans asks me a now-familiar question in a pained voice: “Can you help us? I just found out my partner’s been having an affair. He (she) is willing to see a therapist. Should we come alone or together? How do you work?” After a call or two, we find a time where usually the couple and I meet in my psychology office.
Dan and Maria thought they probably wanted to stay together but needed immediate counseling to handle the challenge of recently released intense emotions: pain, anger, guilt. They had thought they were happily married.